Relationships are complicated, but as social beings we feel incomplete without them. Despite all our technology and social networking, forming meaningful relationships and finding someone to connect with has never been tougher, making many of us all the more desperate. Unfortunately, our craving for deep emotional bonds also makes us vulnerable to those who simply crave sexual gratification, so at times, the chemistry you imagine to be there, could just be an illusion. If you keep your eyes open however, it soon becomes apparent that your soul mate is solely interested in your body, not in a relationship with you!
To save yourself the time, heartbreak, and emotional trauma of being in a one-sided relationship, it would help to look out for these clear warning signs.
Warning Signs That He Only Loves Your Body
1. He Only Compliments Your Looks
While everyone wants to look their best and feel attractive, if you’re in it for the long haul, you’d obviously like your partner to appreciate you and not just your body. Men who are serious about a relationship will be in awe or at the very least be appreciative of your other qualities like your intelligence, generosity, kindness, or sense of humor too. On the other hand, if your guy is only in it for the sex, he will be more lavish in his compliments of a more sexual and physical nature. Beware of men who get overly physical before you’ve even had a chance to get to know each other intimately.
2. Poor Communication
We’re not talking about guys with poor communication skills, as many men have trouble expressing their emotions and communicating freely, but we’re referring to men who communicate infrequently. They will disappear and resurface, as and when it suits them. If your man is only interested in you for sex, there’s a good chance that he only calls, texts, and meets you when he’s got raging hormones.
3. Every Conversation Turns Sexual
No matter what’s on your mind or what you are discussing, sex always slips back into the conversation. If you aced that job interview, he’ll probably pay you a backhanded compliment about how they couldn’t resist you because of how hot you are. If you open up about how stressed or tired you are, he’ll offer you a massage, but it’s always sensual, not just about you. If a man is really into you, he will be sensitive and interested in your joys and sorrows and will try to learn more about you, even if he’s not very skilled with conversation!
4. Dates Are At Home
We mean only at home, and home alone! Yes, if a guy really is into you, he would actually love to be seen out in public with you, or would at least be interested in spending time with you at places where you can’t have sex, like restaurants, theaters, amusement parks, museums, galleries, and so on. A guy who is only into your body won’t mind lavishing you with gifts, but he will never want to spend time with you, unless it’s at your place when your folks are out, or when he’s home alone – in other words, when he sees a window of opportunity for sex.
5. He Doesn’t Call You His Girlfriend
Tags can be telling, especially in relationships. If he introduces you to his friends and acquaintances as his girlfriend it’s a great sign, but if he simply introduces you by your name, carefully avoiding any mention of relationship status, you need to run. It can only mean that he’s not serious about the relationship or not proud to have you as his girlfriend.
6. Friends vs Girlfriend
When a guy is truly into you he will gladly ditch his friends or the whole world just to get a chance to spend time with you. That may be tough for a man with an active social life, but even socialites will invite you along if they can’t break their social commitments. If your guy on the other hand regularly picks a night out with friends over a quiet dinner with you, he’s probably just not that into you.
7. You Don’t Know His Friends
Early in a relationship, it’s normal to keep friends and lovers apart, as you probably wouldn’t want to introduce your partner to them if you aren’t sure if the relationship will work. But, if you’ve been dating for months and still haven’t met his closest friends or family members it’s a pretty clear sign that he doesn’t see a future in the relationship and is simply using you as a filler until he finds ‘Miss Right’.
8. Affection Is Only Physical
Yes, men can be more expressive of emotions physically, with hugging and kissing, but if every attempt at being emotionally close through hugging and cuddling escalates to sexual behavior you should be wary. If your guy is only into you for your body, he will quickly lose interest and become distant when the affection remains just that and doesn’t progress to a romp in the sack. It’s a sure sign that you need to dump him.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with having purely physical relationships, but for any relationship to work it needs to be mutually beneficial and both partners need to be on the same page. If you are looking for commitment and someone who loves you for who you are, you can do without a Charlie Harper or Barney Stinson, no matter how endearing, charming, entertaining, and fun he might be!
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